My Holistic Health Plan

Hello dear ladies, 

Kev and I had a really tough conversation yesterday.  I have noticed a strong sense of resentment about his lack of follow through on his goal of losing 30 lbs.  I have had multiple nights since I got home where I lay in bed and just roal at him in my head composing nasty and pointed diatribes.  I know that is not okay and so yesterday I tried to discuss my concern with him.  It started out well and he was open and honest but I'm not sure if it ended well, time will tell.  We have had this conversation more then once.

One thing I did learn while away was that sometimes discomfort is key to change.  If we are comfortable we will never change.  I tried to approach him with love and making it about me but also not let him make excuses. I don't know that I did well but I do know I had to say something and not bottle it up.  I really believe his weight is effecting every aspect of his life.  He is tired all the time, he doesn't sleep well, he doesn't have any energy, he doesn't breath well.  I also believe it affect peoples perception of him.  As a professional in a human service job that is based heavily on perception I think it is a huge factor.  There are also the long term risks the longer he maintains a heavier weight the more at risk he is for long term health problems which really concerns me.   So I said something, not well and not perfect but I pray effective.

 In the end I said I can only take care of me.  I know I have a food and shopping addiction that I need to start working on again.  I will do that and hope that creates an environment where he can work on his things.  The below is my desire to get back in to taking care of myself.  I did this with a friend for three months and lost 10 lbs and had a much healthier view mentally, spiritually and physically.  I am hoping you may each be willing to hold me accountable and you can join me if you like.

I love this as it is structured enough to feel productive,   flexible enough to be realistic and simple enough not to overwhelm.  I have written down 5 goals for the week and some evaluation questions for the end of the week.  The first two goals remain the same each week.  The next three change based on where I feel the Lord is leading me.

These three rules are my overall guides for the month that help me keep some of my problem areas in check.

Friday is my crave night.  If I have had a craving all week and still have it on Friday I will eat it then.  

I will only eat fried food once a month, including fried chips (I keep forgetting those should count).    

If I eat out I will use the restaurant survival  guide or the nutritional values menu to make a smart choice. 

These are my weekly goals for May 7th - 13th.

1. Follow spark people (for diet) 1200- 1700 calories
2. Exercise at least 3 times/keep running journal (40 min x 3;4 X 30; 5 X 20 or 6 X 15)
3. Read scripture/study theological matters/write in spiritual blog 15 minutes (X5)
4. Write down any money I spend in planner (withdraw my allowance for May)
5. Make a list of my  job duties here at home and have days of the week dedicated to completing them.  Begin to follow list.

(Here is how it works if you want to try. Each goal counts for 5 points if I complete them at the end of the week I will have 25 points.  There are makeup activities if I miss one so I can still reach my goal. ie. Read a healthy article and share it with two people, get someone else to exercise with me, write a letter to a friend I have been intending to for 3 months etc.  The goal is holistic health.   At the end of the month we determine who has "won" (though I think we all won:) based on level of involvement (25%), weight loss/inches (50%) and a vote from all of us (25%).If your goal does not need to be weight loss we can determine another factor that can be the 50% for you.

Below is how I check in with my goals each day.  I just write yes if I accomplished that goal that day.

1. Follow spark people (for diet) 1200- 1700 calories
Monday:
Tuesday:
Wednesday:
Thursday:
Friday:
Saturday:
Sunday:

2. Exercise at least 3 times (40 min x 3;4 X 30; 5 X 20 or 6 X 15)
Monday: 30 minutes of running
Tuesday:
Wednesday:
Thursday:
Saturday:
Sunday:

3. Read scripture/study theological matters/write in spiritual blog 15 minutes (X5)
Monday: Yes
Tuesday:
Wednesday:
Thursday:
Friday:
Saturday:
Sunday:

4. Write down any money I spend in planner (withdraw my allowance for May)

Monday:
Tuesday:
Wednesday:
Thursday:
Friday:
Saturday:
Sunday:

5. Make a list of my  job duties here at home and have days of the week dedicated to completing them.  Begin to follow list.
Monday:
Tuesday:

Wednesday:

Thursday:
Friday:
Saturday:
Sunday:

How do I feel physically emotionally, spiritually today?

Monday: I feel tired and a little melancholy but I am excited to be starting back on this journey.       Concerned about Ragnar and if I am going to be able to actually complete it. Spiritually, avoident as usual.
Tuesday:
Wedneday:
Thursday:
Friday:
Saturday:
Sunday:


This week:

Did I push myself too much?

Did I push myself too little?

What other factors contributed to my success or struggles this week?

What area of my life am I most proud of this week?

What did I struggle with the most this week and do I know why I seemed to struggle with it this week?

What revelation, insight or lesson did I learn this week?

How can I improve or maintain for next week?

Total points: 0/25

I OWE $ (0)
Energy Level: Moderate
Resting Heart rate: 60
Inches: chest-  waist-  thigh- arm-
Weight: 162 last week down from 166. I forgot to weigh this morning.  Will tomorrow.
% loss to date:
Total Steps (er, pounds) in the right direction: 3 lbs